Two friends A and B are discussing the recent engagement of Priyanka Chopra and Nick Jonas.
A-Know it all, B-Don’t know anything
A-Why are you so stressed? What happened?
B-Have you heard the news of Priyanka Chopra and Nick Jonas engagement?
A-Yes, I have.
B-Don’t you find it odd?
A-What do you mean?
B– Oh maybe you don’t know. They have a huge age difference!
A-Really? How much?
B-Priyanka Chopra is 35 and Nick Jonas is 25. I am so offended! How can she marry someone who is 10 years younger than her?
A-But I don’t see the problem.
B-I mean in India people prefers that the boy age should be more than of girl.
A-There is no “should be” in love. And I know many married couples who have an age difference.
B-Yeah, I do too. But in this case, Priyanka Chopra is so much older than Nick Jonas. I don’t think this is right.
A-Oh, now I get the problem.
B– Right! It is inappropriate for a woman…
A-When 35 old Ranbir Kapoor dates 25 years old Alia Bhatt, that is “cute” but when 35 years old Priyanka Chopra dates 25 years old Nick Jonas then people say- “Look an aunty is dating a boy”. This is what is called double standards.
B-I am not the only one who thinks this is wrong. Go on the internet and see what the other people are saying about this. People are trolling Priyanka Chopra and Nick Jonas on their age difference.
A-I have seen that trolls. These trolls show double standard of Indian mindset. When have we as a society understood the concept of “Choice” or “Personal Space”. And people are always offended on the internet.
And by the way, People reaction in India is like-personal life? What’s that?
Your choice? What’s that?
But hey! We wouldn’t have judged you if you were a man.
Social media trolls age-shaming Priyanka Chopra for dating 10-year-younger Nick Jonas only magnify the gender stereotypes of our social systems. The problem, when contrasted with the acceptance of Ranbir Kapoor’s relationship with 25-year-old Alia Bhatt, reveals hypocrisies in our perception of gender norms. Despite solid precedence of celebrity couples dating and marrying beyond their age brackets, Indian society continues to measure love in numerals and inflict judgment on the fairer sex.
B-But social media is filled with the troll of Priyanka Chopra and Nick Jonas. So, it is right? And what is the reason behind it?
A-No way, it is not right. Despite many celebrities dating and marrying beyond their age, social media trolls seem fixated on nasty gender norms when judging Priyanka Chopra for dating 25-year old Nick Jonas. The problem stems from the deep-set sexism in our social systems which confines love into age brackets and reserves judgement for only one sex.
B-So is this sexism? You can’t call out a woman on immoral behaviour. If the woman is insulting Indian culture nobody can question it?
A-Ok two things: First, Indian culture teaches to respect all women. And who forgets this and start attacking women, is the person insulting our culture. Second, this is not “immoral”. Don’t forget that many women in this country are FORCED to marry a man much older than her. Sometimes little girls of 10 years are married off to a man of 30-40 years. The sad part is not many people question this.
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B– But why an American? Can’t she find a good husband in 1.2 Billion people, a good Indian husband?A-Just make up your mind! Is it the age thing or the nationality thing?
B-Ha Ha…No no. Just that America’s culture is different than ours.
A-It’s her choice from whom she wants to marry. At least respect her choice. By the way, what’s your problem, do you want to give shagun to them?
B-Ha Ha…No no. I was just discussing her. But she is a famous celebrity, she can marry a much better person?
A– That is the real problem in Indian mindset. You can be a Miss World (2000), a Padma Shri recipient (2016), a philanthropist, a leading actor and an independent woman working your bones off, but people will still judge you, troll you and mock you if you date someone younger than you.
B– I don’t know. Does this happen often?
A– Bruce Willis-Emma Heming, George Clooney-Amal Clooney, Michael Douglas-Catherine Zeta-Jones, in the west to Saif Ali Khan-Kareena Kapoor, Riteish Deshmukh-Genelia D’Souza and Milind Sonam-Ankita Konwar in Bollywood, the list of celebrities shredding the confines of age-stereotypes is exhaustive and liberating. Yet, as reaffirmed by the online toxic hurled at Priyanka and Nick, looks like our deep-set gender biases have set camp for good.
B– I understand what you’re saying. But even I do not everyone else is going to feel the same way. There will still be trolling all around the world.
A-Ha Ha…. Yes, you are right. People will keep loosing their manners on the INTERNET from time to time because we still have a long way to go when it comes to respecting women and their choices.
Social media is trolling Priyanka Chopra left and right for her alleged relationship with Nick Jonas, and why? Due to the simple fact that there is a 10-year age gap between them!
We should know that Priyanka (35) and Nick (25) don’t need our judgement, folks, because they know the truth that a decade’s gap has nothing to do with their relationship with each other. They are simply like any other couple out there.
Besides, I don’t think Priyanka Chopra and Nick Jonas are bothered by any of it. After all, they are celebrities and have been in the public eye for such a long time that they know that they are going to be criticised no matter what they do.
B-Hmm…So what should be the change in India according to you?
A-People should stop trolling Priyanka Chopra and Nick Jonas. Indian people should remove the sexist stereotypes from our mind and respects a women’s choice. They should understand that everyone is free to choose their life partner whatever the age and nationality of life partner. Everyone has the right to live their life the way they want to live.
And by the way, you can hate her or troll her, but you can’t ignore the fact that she is a successful superstar of Bollywood.
Priyanka is a strong girl, and will definitely come out stronger again, more power to you girl!